I’m having a rough day. I feel guilty even writing that with all the horrible things taking place in the world right now, especially the gun violence against both civilians and police officers in the last week. But it’s how I feel, and this is my outlet.
Little Bear didn’t really sleep last night. Or the night before. Or most nights since January. And when I say that to people, most of them don’t get it, just how bad it can be I mean. Even the ones who have had kids have blocked it out. I hope I do one day, too.
When he was young, he slept great. He would wake up a few times a night to nurse, which made sense because he was small and would get hungry. And he would go back to sleep peacefully. Then he started daycare at around 4.5 months, and he started getting ear infections. And teething – he got 6 teeth in as many weeks. Ever since, he hasn’t slept.
On a good night now he will still wake up 2-3 times a night and need coaxing back to sleep. We only get good nights every now and then, and never more than two in a row. I go to sleep hoping that I will get 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep, knowing it’s likely that I won’t.
Last night, LB went to sleep quite happily and calmly at around 8:30pm. He woke up at around 11pm and we got him back to sleep laying next to me in bed. But then, he woke up at 12:30am and basically screamed until 4:30am. Nothing we tried worked except me nursing him. I nursed him until it hurt and I had to stop, and then he screamed some more. We’re really at a loss, and I have been exhausted and upset all day. This whole situation with LB makes me intensely frustrated and sad.
That’s not what this post was supposed to be about. My plans really devolved quickly! This post was supposed to boost me out of this rut of self-pity.
I have a lot to be thankful for. On days like this, it’s easy for me to forget it. So here’s my list, and to make up for the depress-fest above, here’s one of my favorite pictures I’ve ever taken.
I am thankful that…
- I have a partner in this world (Papa Bear) who I am still very much in love with after ten years together.
- I have a family who loves me including living parents and a sister who is one of my closest friends.
- I have a healthy baby (LB) who is generally pretty happy (during the day) and brings me joy with everything new he learns each day.
- I have a secure job that I’m usually pretty good at (except for a recent project that I’m bumbling my way through), and for which I get to use my brain and be a lifelong learner.
- I have a warm and cosy home, a car that runs, decent health insurance, and a retirement savings account. I no longer have to check my bank account when I want to meet a friend for coffee to see if I have enough money.
- I may not have a lot of free time (no more reading books for pleasure in a weekend or binge-watching OITNB), but I do have hobbies that I enjoy. I cook, I bake, I take pictures of flowers, I practice Italian, and now I blog!
- I get to travel. Not as much as I used to before LB, but I’ve gotten to visit places in the world on three continents, and I’m planning to visit more.
They say “Un’immagine vale più di mille parole,” a picture is worth a thousand words, and so here are some that bring me joy.